Book review: Going All the Way by Craig Groeschel
For those preparing for marriage, they could do far worse than take the advice given by pastor Craig Groeschel in his book Going All the Way.
Groeschel, pastor of LifeChurch in Edmond, Oklahoma, wrote for single adults preparing for marriage, and also has things to say to those who are dating and those who are already married.
One plus in my mind about Going All the Way is that it is written with adults in mind; you’re not reading a book written for teenagers and having to filter things to see what is applicable for you.
Groeschel gives some very good advice in this book.
The most important advice perhaps is given in chapter 1, and it’s something I’ve heard before – and dismissed, because I too felt like I had to have the ‘perfect’ woman complete me:
Are you ready for a radical thought? Don’t miss it. You can’t know the intimate marriage you desire…until you know Jesus first.
You have to receive His love before you can give it. His love must overtake you, envelop you, and fill you. Only then can you share it with another. (p. 18)
Groeschel goes on to say that Jesus wants to be first in every aspect of your life, and for you to give 100 percent of yourself to Him. Only then, can you have a great relationship with someone else, with you two placing Jesus first and each other second (by the way, Groeschel believes there could be any number of potential spouses out there for you, and that you have to do your part to find that person instead of asking God to do all the work).
Going All the Way is chock-full of good advice that isn’t just about what to do and what not to do, but how to go about doing (or not doing) it. Groeschel covers everything from the potentially married couple having a friendship to avoiding sexual temptation to breaking up (I personally think a re-read of Chapter 8, on how to start over again after you’ve messed up, is wise for anyone who picks up this book). Chapter 14 (the next to last chapter) has seven ‘habits’ people can use to work on themselves, to better prepare themselves for that future spouse.
Overall, this is a good of a book to start out with as any if you are considering marriage, although I would consider other authors as well. I’d carefully consider Groeschel’s advice, especially given that he has a track record as a husband, a pastor who hasn’t fallen sexually, if I was considering or in the process of getting married.
Disclosure of Material Connection: A copy of this book was provided to me by the author and publisher, but my opinions are my own and not those of the author nor the publisher. I was not required to give a positive opinion as a condition of reviewing this book. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”